Isha Upanishad

Isha Upanishad -  ईषा उपनिषद

ॐ पूर्णमदः पूर्णमिदं पूर्णात् पूर्णमुदच्यते । 

पूर्णस्य पूर्णमादाय पूर्णमेवावशिष्यते॥

पूर्णंम् अद: पूर्णंम् इदं पूर्णात् पूर्णंम् उदच्यते|

पूर्णस्य पूर्ण-मादाय पूर्णंम् एवं वशिष्यते||

ओम्! --  यह विश्व अविभाज्य एक है, पूर्ण है, दोष रहित है, कोख जैसा है। इसका मूल गुण नये को जन्म देना और उसका पोषण करना है।  नाश होना, नष्ट होना, मृत्यु को प्राप्त होना इस प्रक्रिया का अंग है, प्रासंगिक घटना है। इस कारण वश पूर्णता अनादि काल से, अनादि काल तक पूर्ण की पूर्ण रहती है। इस वजह से इस पूर्ण को समझने के लिये मानवता ने ईश्वर, देव, परमात्मा ऐसे शब्दों का उपयोग किया है। इस विचार को ध्यान में रखते हुए अब यह सरल अर्थ : यह पूर्ण है, वह पूर्ण है। उस पूर्ण से इस पूर्ण की उत्पत्ती होने पर वह पूर्ण, शेष पूर्ण रहता है। - ओम्! शांति! शांति! शांति!

Om!  -- This universe is one indivisible, complete, flawless, womb-like whole.  Its basic quality is to give birth to the new and nurture it.  Destruction and death is a part of this process, a related event.  For this reason, the perfection of completeness remains complete – a whole - from time immemorial, to time immemorial.  It is for this reason that words such as Ishwar, Dev, God,  Parmatma are used to understand this Absolute.  Keeping this idea in mind a straight meaning of the invocation is : This is whole, that is whole. This whole having been created from that whole, the whole remains intact, complete..  - Om!  Peace, Peace, Peace. 

Social Action

SOCIAL ACTION

Social action ordinarily means activities people engage in for personal change and growth.

Social Action is not directly defined in TA Theory. However Berne identifies Stroke as a fundamental unit of social action. Therefore all types of engagements that result in mutual recognition, social intercourse, games and scripty behaviours are aspects of social action through the agency of stroke generation. 

Berne describes Social Action in Games People Play as : the influence that each player has on each other is social action. 

Games generate social contact with the object of relieving tension. In this context the following contributors are listed in Clarke's TA Dictionary :

The advantages of social contact revolve around somatic and psychic equilibrium:

1. The relief of tension

2. The avoidance of noxious situations 

3. The procurement of stroking 

4. The maintenance of an established equilibrium may be stated as:

5. Translated into terms of social psychiatry,  they are

6. The primary internal advantage 

7. The primary external advantage

8. The secondary advantages

9. The existential advantage

Key words

Social Action, 

Social Contact, 

Advantages, 

Rene Spitz

Stroke represents an infant's need for touch. Rene Spitz (1987-1974) was an Austrian born, American Psychoanalyst. His area of specialisation was child development. He found that physical, maternal and emotional deprivation in infancy results in severe neurological and emotional damage. He called the condition anaclytic depression. There is also this famous story of Victor. He was a 'feral child' resembling a human. He was assessed to be twelve years old when he was captured in Aveyron forest in Southern France in 1797. Attempts to socialise with him failed several times. French scientists, physicians and psychiatrists concluded that he had been deprived of human physical touch all his life. It resulted in his retarded psychological, emotional and social development.

Key words for this section

Rene Spitz, 

Stroke Deprivation, 

Marasmus, 

Anaclitic Depression, 

Hospitalism

11.02 Script Cure -1

Autobiography in Five Short Chapters 

by Portia Nelson 

I 

I walk down the street. 

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. 

I fall in 

I am lost...I am helpless 

It isn't my fault. 

It takes forever to find a way out. 

/ / 

I walk down the same street. 

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. 

I pretend I don't see it 

I fall in again

I can't believe I am in the same place.

Rut. it isn't my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

/ / /

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk

I see it is there

I still fall in...it's a habit

My eyes are open.

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

TV

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk

I walk around it.

V

I walk down another street

Transactional Analysis Theory and Practice - A Comprehensive Cure Plan

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A Comprehensive Cure Plan
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Twelve Month Liberating Sadhana
Designed by Ajit Karve

Month One
Do six things differently.
This promotes Neuro-genesis, Neuro-synthesis and Neuro-plasticity.

Month Two
Eat one meal a day slowly, deliberately, attentively  over 40 minutes without engaging in any other activity.

This frees the Free Child

Installing an endocrinologically programmed Permissive CP and NP

Month Three
Creating the moment
Entering the moment
Staying in the moment
Using Ajit Karve Technique

Month Four
Empowering the Adult by:

1. Patiently waiting, postponing and delaying responses to urges, drives and Impulses

2. Implementing Reality Principle

3. Implementing Social Control

4. Implementing Adult Reality Testing. This by pushing brain stem response through mid-brain to fore-brain

5. Learning to deal with Situations by ending them
Learning to deal with Problems      by solving them
Learning to deal with Difficulties   by facing them
Learning to deal with Conditions    by tiding over them
Learning to deal with Challenges    by facing them
Learning to deal with Conflicts       by accepting them
Learning to deal with People  by using game-free, level, open, honest interactions in intimacy.
All these while observing the thumb rule of: 'sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and to the benefit of all'.

Month Five
Knowing Mind
Implementing Permissions Liberally
Using Ajit Karve Technique

Talking to body and talking to mind

Month Six
Implementing being loving, being friendly, being forgiving and being forgetting using Ajit Karve formulations

Month Seven
Discarding Rackets
Stopping blaming, hanging on hook, expecting, anticipating

Month Eight
Separating person and behaviour
Accepting the person and ignoring the behaviour. Dealing with behaviour in isolation by addressing personality with compassion.

Month Nine
Healing the early child
Using Ajit Karve Technique
0 to 6 months
6 to 12 months
12 to 18 months
18 to 36 months (3 years)
3 to 6 years

Month Ten
Healing  eight life stages
Using Ajit Karve Technique
1. Infancy
2. Early Childhood
3. Mid Childhood
4. Later Childhood
5. 10-12 year old
6a.13 to 19 year
6b.16 to 19 year
7. 19 to 29 year
8. 29 to 39 year

Month Eleven
Healing Script using Ajit Karve
Deep Dive technique

Month Twelve
Learning to stay in the moment

Practicing freedom from Psychological Time engagements

Practicing freedom from reach-backs and after-burns

Practicing improved interactions using VAK hierarchies and Paul Ware sequence methodologies.

Practicing intimacy dominant relating using roll-back and move-forward exercise

End of one year
Living life in new ways.

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The one step journey to liberation from script-ridden-ness
Often takes a lifetime to accomplish.

Reason:
People believe the mythical to be (true) real;
and
The real to be mythical!

They pursue to know the mythical.
Instead of exploring the real.

What is real?
'Any and everything'
that affects us pleasurably or adversely is real.

What is it that conditions our perception.
It is an intrapsychic mechanism the organisation of which is structured by our core beliefs.

What are these beliefs?**
These are beliefs about
1. oneself
2. others
3. our quality of life entitlements
4. how good the world in which we live is conducive to our existence
5. how good we are to deal with the world successfully
6. the  attitude that will best get us what we want and succeed in not being forced to have what we don't want

How are these beliefs generated?
1. By attaching meaning
2. By process of personalisation
3. By implementing Procrustes and Unicorn
4. By attribution
5. By holding what is harmful, damaging, hurting and painful close to our heart and not letting it go

What is it that controls this process?
Chitta

What is chitta?
Psyche

What does psyche do?
It psyches us.

What is psyching?
Depriving us of our capacity for awareness. (भान रहात नाही).

How does it do it?
By making us believe that what we hold to be true is the only truth.

What are its activating components?
1. Memories of the framing beliefs listed above at **
2. Absence of awareness
3. Believing in destiny, fate, the imagined projections, mythical fantasies, incapacitating impositions to state a few.
4. Attribution (labelling i.e. naming classifying as good/bad, useful/useless, harmless/harmful)
and
5.Holding believed proofs to be the gospel truths (this is the cause of ignorance)

How do they manifest?
When we justify, protect and profess.

What is such a person called?
A script ridden person.

What is script?
Script is an intrapsychic mechanism that gets activated when the manifesting reality challenges our scripty view of reality.

What then happens?
The person becomes incapacitated, victimised and enslaved.

He perceives reality with an altered tunnel vision which he doggedly justifies as the only truth.

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Goals of Transactional Analysis Practice

1. Achieving OK-ness, Capacity to Think, Capacity to make new Decisions.
2. Becoming a Self-Responsible, Self-Dependent, Empowered Individual.
3. Having a healthy personality: An empowered Adult supported by a Free Child and a Permissive Parent.
4. Fulfilling needs of Psychological Hungers in a healthy way.
5. Implementing Reality Principle, Reality Testing and Gaining Social Control.
6. Capacity for Intimacy.
7. Capacity to deal with Feeling, Emotional, Thinking, Behaviour Rackets.
8. Decision Making, Problem Solving, Game Free Interactions and Script Free Living.
9. Mind free of Mind Talk, Psychological Time Engagements and Transactional Rackets.
10. Good Mental Health, Psychological Well Being and Capacity for child-like happiness and joy.

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Daily Affirmations

1. No matter what happens I commit myself to be free of self harm or other person harm.
2. No matter what happens I commit myself to be free of causing material damage or financial losses.
3. I commit myself to be aware of losing control over my thinking, feeling, or emotional hijacks.
4. I commit myself to accept and own my mistakes, rackets and racketing behaviours.
5. I commit myself to end situations and solve problems sanely, safely, effectively and rationally.
6. I commit myself to maintain discipline, cordiality, affection and intimacy in all interactions and relationships.
7. I commit myself to gain a happy state of mind and enjoy childlike happiness and joy;
8. I commit myself to generate the moment, enter the moment and use the moment for a better healthy me.

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Transactional Analysis Theory and Practice - Summing Up

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Summing Up

We have covered the entire content of Theory of Transactional Analysis. The contents not covered are trans-generational script transmission and structural and functional pathology in second order Parent and Child Structures. These latter are significant in understanding the manifestations of Critical and Rescuing Parent and Compliant, Rebel and Adapted Child in persons. 

It is the considered view of the author that Personality and Script are two faces of the same phenomenon. It is the phenomenon that affects a person's ego - the ego of Freud's Super-ego, Ego and Id model. It is so because it is the ego which has two dimensions. One dimension is the somatic component. The other is the psychological component which in Bernian TA is mentioned as psychic organs. The activated psychic organs manifest as personality PAC structures. Script Activation is accompanied by double contamination. This is the personality manifestation of script. It is evident in person taking up one of the six Stewart Personality Adaptations.  

Therefore upon one of the millions of triggers that affect a person's view of reality see > 08.01 Introduction to Script and thereby his or her frame of reference the script gets activated. The script requires five weak-spots to take over the system. They are: (1) Parental Directives (2) A suitable Personality Development (3) A Childhood Decision (4) A Real Turn-on to a particular method of success or failure, and (5) A convincing attitude. They all get activated together. Thereupon the script affects the person psychologically as well as somatically. We conclude from the Script System that some of many rackety displays* become evident alongside escalation of somatic ailments. 

*Here is a list of rackety displays in addition to items included in the script system diagram.

1. Experiencing stuckness, confusion, indecision, struggle, conflict.
2. Experiencing inadequacy, incompetency, and inability to manage emotional takeovers.
3. Experiencing inability to get out of emotional and thinking lock-jams.
4. Driver Behaviour.
5. Manifestations of Thinking Disorders.
6. Manifestation of Racket Behaviours and Moving to Game Roles.
7. Verbal patterns and 'gallows laughter', smiles.
8. Redefining Transactions.
9. Feeling helpless to get out of the existing pattern of thinking, feeling.
10. Justifying, protecting and professing one's views.
11. Inability to assume responsibility to be sane, safe, appropriate and effective.
12. Victimisation by arrogance, being cowed down, taken for a ride, exploitation, giving back and other related.
13. Using diversive tactics, postponing, bouncing off responsibility, failing to take proactive action.
14. Engaging in competitive symbiosis.
15. Manifestation of Passive Behaviours. 

Berne has mentioned that script cure is a far call. All one can do is to reduce the intensity, recurrence and remaining locked in games and also racket lock-jams. The rackets are thinking, feeling, emotional, behaviour, action, expression rackets in the main.

The author has after extensive research and application come to the conclusion that script cure can also be achieved in self help mode by using methods that indirectly generate changes in core areas of script contributors. See item 9 in 09.16 at > Implementing Self Therapy 6.

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Comprehensive Self-Help Treatment
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Berne describes cure as: Converting Frog into a Prince and Putting up a New Show on the Road. Eight methods help to achieve this. By: 

1. Having capacity to separate person from behaviour. Getting to accept and love the person and ignoring behaviour. 
2. Disengaging from game engagements or being adept in discarding their outcomes; 
3. Getting rid of Rackets; 
4. Becoming Stroke Accounting; 
5. Building an empowered Adult supported by a Permissive Parent and an Acquiescent Free Child; 
6. Healing the Script; 
7. Becoming free of mind-talk; 
8. Becoming free of the tendencies in being engaged in trash;

Self-Help Transactional Analysis Practices help to achieve these objectives by implementing some practices. They are:

1. Installing a Permissive Parent. Permissive Parent is endocrinologically programmed. An endocrinologically programmed Parent as a Controlling Parent is caring, being supporting and providing security; the Parent as a Nurturing Parent is kind, comforting, caring, helping, assisting and teaching. The process is facilitated by learning to be accepting, loving and friendly, forgiving and forgetting. 

- Being accepting is connecting without bias, attribution or labelling.

- Being loving is generated by noticing, connecting, recognising, saying a word, praising and offering help and assistance. Charity begins at home. The practice of being loving best starts with one's spouse.

- Being friendly is being kind, caring, accepting, loving, forgiving and forgetting.  

- Being forgiving is having the capacity to run an adverse thought again and again through one's mind space till it runs in peace.

- Being forgetting is not holding on to a thought, feeling, emotion, event or happening. Giving permission for it to go away helps.
 
2. Installing an Acquiescent Free Child. Fr. George prescribed two methods to achieve this. One: by eating a biscuit a day over 30-40 minutes; and two: by eating a meal a day over 40 minutes slowly, mindfully, deliberately without engaging in any other activity.

3. By self-contracting for closing escape hatches. It is implemented by saying this: No matter what happens, I will never say, do, act or express in a way that is likely to cause harm to myself, or another, or cause material damage, or cause financial losses or go crazy.

4. By self-contracting to be happy and joyful in a childlike way by being forgiving and forgetting.

5. Berne says that rackets are best discarded by allowing them to age in dust on shelves of closed shops. Berne describes rackets as feelings of anger, hurt, guilt, righteousness or triumph. They are justified and get escalated when questioned. Rackets are got rid of by replacing them with healthy feelings. Difficulty in doing this is overcome by offering permission to the mind as proposed earlier on. 

6. Game is marked by a 'switch'. Switch is a crossed transaction. In switch a shift in the subject or topic discussed happens. It takes place because the other is called a name, blamed  or held responsible. Game can be ended by going back to the topic under discussion and moving forward to its logical end. Expressing cordiality and having capacity for intimacy also help.  Game occurs in informal relationships and in informal settings. Game is not possible when people observe discipline, cordiality, mutual love, forgiving and forgetting. 

7. Becoming stroke accounting is easy when one has an Endocrinologically Programmed Parent and an Acquiescent Free Child in place. Accepting, loving, liking, having praise for a quality of another and freedom from bias help in stroke accounting.

8. An Empowered Adult is built by:

a. Pushing impulses from lower brain through the mid-brain to the fore-brain by deliberate activity promoting this process.

b. Patiently waiting, delaying and postponing in responding;

c. Asking how else may I?

d. Dealing with people, situations, problems, difficulties, challenges sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and to the benefit of all free of put-downs.

9. Healing the Script: Rackety displays, fantasies, autistic thinking, escalated somatic ailments, racketing actions are manifestations of script activation. Driver behaviours and passive behaviours also signal onset of script-ridden-ness. Being script ridden is also manifest when we justify, protect and profess. We take any of the manifesting signs and reach the deep seated script beliefs and script feelings by asking these questions:

a. What thought is occupying my mind now? Note the thought.

b. What is the feeling associated with this thought? Note the feeling.

c. What is the emotion associated with this feeling? Note the emotion.

d. What is the body sensation associated with this emotion? Note the body sensation.

e. What is the thinking about me, my capacity, capability, life situation that is running in my mind? Note the thinking?

f. What is the feeling associated with this thinking / thought? Note the feeling.

Having done this the script cure process can be conducted. Go stage by stage backward from f. to a. By following these instructions slowly:

i. Notice the script feeling. Notice it. Recognise it. Connect to it. Become comfortable with it. Accept it. Say it is OK to have it. Linger in relief for a while.

ii. Notice the script thought. Notice it. Recognise it. Connect to it. Become comfortable with it. Accept it. Say it is OK to have it. Linger in relief for a while.

iii. Notice the body sensation. Notice it. Recognise it. Connect to it. Become comfortable with it. Accept it. Say it is OK to have it. Linger in relief for a while.

iv. Notice the emotion. Notice it. Recognise it. Connect to it. Become comfortable with it. Accept it. Say it is OK to have it. Linger in relief for a while.

v. Notice the feeling. Notice it. Recognise it. Connect to it. Become comfortable with it. Accept it. Say it is OK to have it. Linger in relief for a while.

vi. Notice the thought. Notice it. Recognise it. Connect to it. Become comfortable with it. Accept it. Say it is OK to have it. Linger in relief for a while.

Repeat the process three times. It heals one set of script belief and feeling combine. It is done repeatedly for manifesting script signs for a period of a month. The script gets healed without any intervention or analysis.

10. Ending mind-talk: Mind talk ends when we ask these questions:

a. What is this mind thinking.  Keep wondering for a few seconds, typically 10 seconds.

b. Do I need to think. Keep wondering for a few seconds, typically 10 seconds.

c. Give the answer ‘No’. Wait in suspended abeyance for ten seconds.

Mind talk will cease. Keep using it again and again. The mind will become accustomed to a 'no thinking mind'.

11. Getting rid of trash: The many forms of scripty thinking, feeling, expressing emotions, actions, engagements and displays is trash. They are characterised by being justified, protected and professed. Drivers, passive behaviours, redefining transactions, roles on drama triangle, expressing racket feelings, engaging in racket activities and behaviours, games, stroke economy are their many manifestations. They  are got rid off comfortably once we run the script healing process.

We create room for self improvement by admitting mistakes, unhealthy behaviours, rackets, personality defects and flaws. Self responsibility is an important quality that helps in self improvement. Stopping to blame one's upbringing, family or life condition helps. There are five moments in every second. Every moment provides occasion to take action for self improvement. Commitment, determination, sense of purpose and being dedicated to a cause promote neuro-genesis and neuro-plasticity. Cure is guaranteed to one who is patient, determined and goal-oriented.

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Findings of Wilder Penfield
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Eric Berne used Wilder Penfield's findings to conceptualise and define ego states.

Dr. Wilder Penfield (b.1891-d.1976) was an American-Canadian neurosurgeon. He began a series of scientific experiments in 1951 on the brains of live and conscious human subjects. He proved, that by touching a part of the brain (the temporal cortex) with a weak electrical probe, the brain could be caused to 'play back' certain past experiences, and the feelings associated with them. The patients 'replayed' these events and their feelings despite not normally being able to recall them using their conventional (conscious) memories.

Penfield's experiments went on over several years, and resulted in wide acceptance of the following conclusions:

• The human brain acts like a tape recorder, and whilst we may 'forget' experiences, the brain still has them recorded.
• Along with events the brain also records the associated feelings, and both feelings and events stay locked together.
• It is possible for a person to exist in two states simultaneously (because patients replaying hidden events and feelings could talk about them objectively at the same time).
• Hidden experiences when replayed are vivid, and affect how we feel at the time of replaying.
• Subjectsw recall past experiences with the 'meaning' and 'understanding' attached to it at the time prevailing.
• There is a certain connection between mind and body, i.e. the link between the biological and the psychological, eg a psychological fear of spiders and a biological feeling of nausea.

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Implementing Self-Therapy 4
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Restraining Urges Drives and Impulses: 

These are restrained by learning to patiently wait, delay and postpone responses to urges, events and situations. Initially one needs to delay by five seconds. Then this can be extended over time as one gains the capacity to delay by five seconds. One learns to delay by many days. It helps to push the response loop from the brain stem through the mid brain, to the fore brain. Doing so helps to structure a sane, safe, effective and appropriate response. Sometimes no response is better and more effective than an inappropriate or ill timed response.

The above practice works well in the matter of response to people, events and situations too.

What does one do with feelings: 

Feelings are like traffic lights. Appropriate action is to be taken. Like when the traffic light is green traffic moves, when yellow it stops and when red it halts. Similarly sadness is discharged by sharing with someone close. Fear is discharged by being prepared with an actionable plan (if what we fear happens for real).  Anger is discharged by using the four steps of Non Violent Communication. They are: (1) Report the observation. eg. You are seated on my seat Sir. (2) Report the feeling. I am uncomfortable. (3) Report the need. I need my seat to be vacated. (4) Make a request. Sir, will you please vacate my seat.  

Freedom from expectation and anticipation:

Expecting and anticipating deprives us of peace of mind. We need to engage with the other instead of starting to become uncomfortable within us. Therefore this tendency is best got over by permitting the mind to do the needful. The mind is addressed like this: "O! my mind. I find that you are lock-jammed with this expecting and anticipating. I give you permission to be free of this lock-jam. Come, be relaxed. I will soon check up and take appropriate action." The urge and drive to be engaged in the expectation and anticipation will die.

Dealing with Pathologies:

Confusion indicates that Adult is excluded. Adult needs to be activated. How to do this. Wait for some time. A moment will come when we have clarity to think in some other less threatening matter. At that moment address the mind thus: "O! my mind. I give you permission to think. Please use it in the matter of  . . . . . (like what decision to make.)

Indeision means Child is excluded. Wait for sometime. Find the Child to be active like when engaged in fun talk with someone. We can get over indecision in that moment.

In struggle Parent is excluded. It is activated by becoming assessing and evaluating in a Parental way.

In conflict two sets of functional ego states engage in an internal dialogue. Adult is also excluded. Conflicts are ended by admitting and accepting that we are in conflict. Thereupon, the process of activating Adult is used. Conflict ends.

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