Transactional Analysis Theory and Practice: Transactional Analysis Theory and Practice: Group 2 Terms Explained

Thursday 12 April 2018

Transactional Analysis Theory and Practice: Group 2 Terms Explained

This blog comes from Ajit Karve, BSc, BTA, a Transformational TA Coach

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Group 2 Goals

Management

Management essentially means organisation and coordination. These attributes are applicable in matters of roles, resources, activities, processes and dealing with challenges of sorts.

Good Self Management

Self Responsibility: A self responsible person has a set of laudable values that guide his thinking, feeling, orientation and attitude. Self responsibility shows up in three time epochs, the past, the present and the future. With regard to the past the person learns lessons from the mistakes that he may have made. He does not harbour guilt. He knows that opportunity lost is lost. He makes peace with himself with regard to his past. He may have grown to be the person he is because of the conditions of life and parenting. However he takes upon himself to be a better person all the time. He does not blame his parents, teachers, siblings or peers for the quality of life he is living. He accepts that he is responsible for the consequences of each of his actions. Therefore he makes important decisions thoughtfully knowing the many outcomes that may result from an action or response. He is able to prioritise his time and activities. With regard to future he uses the present to in some way serve the future plans he has in mind.

Self responsibility also shows up in the manner in which the person conducts himself in relationships with his spouse, children, parents, siblings, acquaintances, friends, social contacts, co workers, superiors and subordinates at work, professional connections, business associates and clients among many many more.

Freedom from Script related tendencies: Movement to script control is displayed by a variety of observable signs. They are in I < > I, I < > Other, I < > Quality of Life entitlements areas. The signs are mainly in terms of behaviour, thinking, fantasies, autistic thinking, feeling, emotional lock-jams and somatic escalations. They also show up in responses to persons, situations, problems and difficulties. Another area is manifestation of compulsive behaviours and takeovers by injunctions and being pushed and urged because of impulsiveness. A characteristic feature is justifying, protecting and professing the method or manner. Having awareness about the onset of these symptoms and acknowledging that they signal movement to script is a good sign of self management.

Self Acceptance: Self Acceptance is being comfortable and satisfied being oneself. It also means having a realistic awareness of one's strengths and weaknesses.

Some other are:
Capacity to be in here-now - knowing where the mind is when the body is here.
Being Loving toward people in close relationships;

Being Forgiving and forgetting;
Capacity for ending Mind Talk;
Capacity for Intimacy;

Capacity for Social Control;

Capacity for Adult Reality Testing;

Capacity for childlike happiness and joy;

Capacity to be free of inhibiting injunctions;

Capacity to be free of compulsive driver behaviours;

Capacity to spend time alone and also in the company of others;

Capacity to interact and deal with persons level;

Capacity to deal with situations, problems, difficulties, conditions, challenges and conflicts sanely, safely, effectively, appropriately and beneficially to all;
Freedom from Transactional Rackets
Freedom from Psychological Time Engagements;

Capacity to be free of Racket Thinking and Emotional lock-jams;

Good Other Person Management

Good other person management shows up as:

Freedom from fault finding, blaming, name calling, expecting and anticipating.

Being able to move out of game engagements by rolling back and moving forward with the original topic.

Being aware that people change with time. Therefore, it shows up in being comfortable with persons who at one time were agreeable and later not-agreeable.

Being aware that the same person's response and behaviour is liable to change with change in place, time, role, circumstances, conditions and environmental settings; or due to experience of threat, blame, isolation and lack of consideration; or due to disagreement with other's views, opinions and beliefs.

Having capacity to be free of thinking and feeling lock-jams in the follow up to engagements with others.

Good Quality of Interacting

Berne asserts that a precise communication is psychologically inconceivable. Noise improves the quality of communication. A person having the capacity to interact with others well is able to discount the noise and know what the person wants and where the person is coming from.

Being level, open, honest, game free and intimacy centric improves the quality of interacting. Being stroke accounting also helps.

All of us have hierarchies of sorts. Some people use redundants and expletives. Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic (VAK) hierarchy shows up in the manner of connecting and interacting. Connecting with each other with eyes and ears alongside speech improves the quality of interacting. Being sincerely connected with the other also helps in improving this quality.

The best interactions award benefit to both parties participating in interactions. Affording speaking time to both improves the quality of interacting.

Interacting without holding any bias or pre-conceived notions about the other, helps in improving the quality of interacting. The ability to separate person from behaviour and connecting to person component is an important asset.

Building Rewarding Healthy Relationships

Good relationships display qualities of being accepting, caring, loving, affectionate, mutuality centric. They also leave little traces of painful outcomes. The best of relationships have at their core respect, regard, esteem, praise and acceptance as ruling qualities.

Healthy relationships are based on parties practising discipline, cordiality, affection, respect and care and concern for each other. The parties are forgiving and forgetting. They do not hold grudge or bias about each other.

Good relationships are free of games. They have the hallmark of taking some things in their stride knowing well that where closeness exists leg pulling, making fun of each other and even calling names and blaming creeps in without intent.

Good in dealing with situations, problems, difficulties,
conditions and challenges of life and conflicts

The way to deal with these is knowing what to do:

Situation, by ending the situation;
Problem, by solving the problem;
Decision, by making a decision;
Difficulty, by facing the difficulty;
Condition, by enduring the condition;
Challenge, by facing the challenge;
Conflict, by accepting and acknowledging its existence and moving to resolve it.
Game, by rolling back at switch or cross-up and proceeding to complete the initial topic;
Racket, by acknowledging the behaviour, action, mannerism and behaving or acting in a new way;