Saturday, 7 April 2018

Transactional Analysis Theory - Common Games

This blog comes from Ajit Karve, BSc, BTA, a Transformational TA Coach
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Common Games
NIGYSOB: This is played by persons who are prone to pick on others, catching them on the wrong foot. A more severe version is putting up with another for a while before giving back in full measure usually with a broken relationship.
Kick Me: This is typical of a person who goes all out to help others. The others do not appreciate his help. To the contrary they keep criticizing him. It hurts him. As yet they don't stop.
Debtor: It is a game played by persons who like to live a stressful life being under debt. Examples are persons who pick up more than one mortgage and spend their whole life paying off mortgages and loans.
Corner and Cornered: Corner is played by a person who finds every opportunity to put another person in a corner without any option to slip away. Cornered is played by a person who gets victimised at another's hands left with no way out.
Harried: Harried is played by a person who lands again and again in difficult jobs. Jobs which are challenging and has him seeped of energy. He suffers the turmoil without grumbling.
Ain't it Awful: This is played by a person who is gullible, falls in traps again and again. He then uses the situations to get the sympathy of others. Others are victimised in the process by playing 'let me help you'.
Schlemiel: It is a partnership between a racketeer and a spouse who at times is very critical and at other times overlooks the behaviour because telling the person is no use.
Rapo: The person offers himself to exploitation and then when the other is expectant of a reward, rebuffs him asking him: "You think I am gullible."
Uproar: This is played by persons of opposite sex to avoid intimacy.  One relationship is between father and daughter.
Cops and Robbers: People from the underworld, criminals, cheats who are skilled in breaking the law, play this game. They take pride in their skill secretly and dare the law enforcers in finding them out.
Stupid: This is played by a person who is knowledgeable and skilled as yet makes a show unawarely when situation demands to be inexperienced or not knowing enough.
Wooden Leg: This person draws attention by putting up a face of incapacity, ineptitude, inability and the like unawarely. The other person makes several efforts and then gives up.
Courtroom: Daughter-in-law, Mother-in-law and Father-in-law take the roles of the accused, the lawyer and the judge. One or the other always loses ground.
Poor Me: The name suggests that the person tries his best, gives his best, puts in his best and as yet nobody gives credit, to the contrary finds reason for blaming him. Thereby the person experiences this payoff.
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