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Authentic Feelings and Racket Feelings
Berne defines a racket as a feeling, out of all the possible feelings, that is turned on by a person as his payoff in the games he plays. They are characterised by the feeling getting escalated when they are questioned. The more common among them are feelings of anger, hurt, guilt, fear, inadequacy, righteousness and triumph.
Racket feelings are feelings that substitute authentic feelings. This substitution happens because of parenting in childhood. Parents inadvertently encourage and stroke some feelings, while they overlook or reprimand their children for using authentic feelings. Four feelings are recognised in TA Literature. They are Angry, Sad, Fear and Joy. They are called racket feelings if any one of these is used in place of another. Feeling sad instead of expressing anger is an example. Racket feelings have a manipulative quality. They are also characterised by the same feeling being used in a variety of situations. A child may feel sad for being overlooked at a function. It does not allow itself to express anger or demand attention. Over time this becomes a racket in similar situations.
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Feelings are sensations. Feeling means a conscious subjective experience of emotion. TA literature recognises four feelings. They are: feeling sad, feeling angry, feeling fear and feeling joy. They all have a time epoch. Feeling sad is for events and occurrences of the past, anger for the present, fear for the future or for the times yet to come and joy generally. When so expressed they are authentic feelings. Authentic feelings when expressed, end the situation or solve the problem. Inauthentic feelings when expressed, do not end the situation nor do they solve the problem. Inauthentic feelings are substitutes for authentic feelings. Inauthentic feelings are racket feelings. Racket feelings are expressed in the hope that they will draw attention and provide strokes.
Racket feelings are feelings that substitute authentic feelings. This substitution happens because of parenting in childhood. Parents inadvertently encourage and stroke some feelings, while they overlook or reprimand their children for using authentic feelings. Four feelings are recognised in TA Literature. They are Angry, Sad, Fear and Joy. They are called racket feelings if any one of these is used in place of another. Feeling sad instead of expressing anger is an example. Racket feelings have a manipulative quality. They are also characterised by the same feeling being used in a variety of situations. A child may feel sad for being overlooked at a function. It does not allow itself to express anger or demand attention. Over time this becomes a racket in similar situations.
For definitions of rackets click here.
Feelings are sensations. Feeling means a conscious subjective experience of emotion. TA literature recognises four feelings. They are: feeling sad, feeling angry, feeling fear and feeling joy. They all have a time epoch. Feeling sad is for events and occurrences of the past, anger for the present, fear for the future or for the times yet to come and joy generally. When so expressed they are authentic feelings. Authentic feelings when expressed, end the situation or solve the problem. Inauthentic feelings when expressed, do not end the situation nor do they solve the problem. Inauthentic feelings are substitutes for authentic feelings. Inauthentic feelings are racket feelings. Racket feelings are expressed in the hope that they will draw attention and provide strokes.
Berne uses the metaphor of a roulette wheel. A stimulus sets the wheel in motion. The internal programming gets it to stop at a particular number. The number represents the favoured racket feeling. It is the one that the person chooses to express in preference to another feeling that is appropriate. It is ineffective in ending situations or solving problems. The person keeps smarting in it and then stores it for future use in the form of a trading stamps. The intensity of racket feelings increases when they are questioned. Racket feelings are the products of legitimate but dysfunctional interactions, namely pastimes and games. The common attributions justifying the expressions are "he made me" or "I got (became)" or "I had to" or "they will understand this way" or "I had no other way" or "I don't know". They are justified, protected and professed.
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