Monday 16 April 2018

Transactional Analysis Theory and Practice: Group 5 Goals Explained

This blog comes from Ajit Karve, BSc, BTA, a Transformational TA Coach
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Group 5 Goals Explained
Heightened Awareness


Having Conscious Awareness about a thought, feeling, emotion, mind talk, lock-jam, sensation opens the door to deal with it in the here now.

It helps to understand these terms:

Being Conscious: Being connected to a sensation, thought, feeling, emotion, mind talk, lock-jam in the moment.

Being Aware: Consciously getting to know that the aforementioned things do exist in reality in the moment.

Being consciously aware: An active process of generating awareness.

Having conscious awareness: Having awareness consciously. This is the most valuable quality to possess.

It helps to be consciously aware of the various types of processes that are going on in the mind all the time. These are lock-jams with thoughts about a person, event, incident, action, response or reaction. These are rackets if we are unable to get rid of them and they keep coming to mind again and again in a variety of situations. They are feelings of hurt, pain, embarrassment, insult, isolation, ego hurt, guilt etc. They are also in the nature of blaming the other/s or blaming oneself or feeling of hurt or pain or guilt or embarrassment.

It helps to be consciously aware about the nature of communications that are happening between ourself / us and another / others. Are they proceeding with the topic that they started with or have they shifted to another topic or have they shifted from topic to person / persons. Attributing meaning unawarely converts conversation into a game. We need to take it in hand and roll back to the initial topic. Trains of topics gradually move away from the initial topic. This too is a gamy trend. It is a game when we are justifying / protecting / professing our own view and conclusion.

Having conscious awareness helps us to implement the process of separating person from behaviour. This by knowing that person is lovable and acceptable while behaviour is to be overlooked or ignored. This is because behaviour is a manifestation of personality at the moment.

Conscious awareness about the four types of passive behaviours helps. The more obvious are agitation and incapacitation. Being agitated about something that has happened or likely to happen reveals this passive behaviour. Finger tapping, legs wriggling, pacing and worrying are other signs of agitation. Forecasting, predicting, expecting, anticipating, anxiety and distress come in this category. A thinking - feeling / emotional lock-jam with this is a racket. In incapacitation our mind is occupied in planning to hurt oneself or hurt another or experiencing extreme futility. Depression, Guilt, Hatred, Resentment, Animosity, Distress, Grief, are varieties of this futility for long left unresolved. Their milder versions are Hurt, Pain, Insult, Anxiety and Bias.

Conscious awareness about mythical thinking helps to deal with it. Mythical thinking is in the nature of day dreaming while talking to oneself about a person, event, happening, interaction, behaviour, mistake, wrongdoing or other similar spinning multiple outcomes or results by way of forecasting.

Conscious awareness about psychological time engagements and transactional rackets. Psychological time engagement is manifest by being out of touch with the here now. It could be about the past or about something in the future. Our mind, our attention, our presence is elsewhere. Our mind is not where the body is or in the matter we are dealing with in the present moment.

Conscious awareness also helps to know when we are justifying, protecting, professing or experiencing helplessness. They are sure shot signs of being in script. This process is accompanied by Procrustes or Unicorn or Circularity. Procrustes is manifest when we enlarge or cut out parts of reasoning to fit our proposition. Unicorn is when we enlarge or cut parts of our proposition to include the matter. In circularity one finds all the reasons put forth are the only ones that are right and correct. Conscious awareness about we blaming, attributing, not shouldering ownership or responsibility helps us to know that we have become script ridden. Conscious awareness about planning to harm another or harming oneself or taking positions in the matter of a subject help us to know that we have become script ridden. Conscious awareness about our tendency to manipulate another or give back helps us to know that we have become script ridden.

Drivers and Injunctions. All of us are in driver and / injunction at some time or another. Having conscious awareness about our being in these two helps us to do something about them.

Confusion, indecision and struggle, and being in dilemma and impasse are signs of being pathology ridden. We can then do something about them by having conscious awareness about them.

One of the goals of Transactional Analysis practice is to have the most healthy relationship between the affective (feeling) and cognitive (thinking) aspects of personality. Either of them in excess is indicative that good mental health is affected.

The object of good interacting and response is to end situations sanely, safely, effectively and reasonably. If we are unable to do this means that urge, drive, desire, impulsiveness are pushing us. Conscious awareness helps us to patiently wait, delay and postpone the response.

Having Consciousness: Having enough learning and experience to have a heightened conscious awareness for persons, things, events, happenings the moment they happen or occur in our environment.

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