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Permissions, Allowers and Closing Escape Hatches
Permissions
Permissions work counter to injunctions. A permission is freedom with responsibility. It endorses OK-ness. It is free of compulsion attached to it. It has the tag of free choice. Permissions work when a person has uncontaminated Adult capacity of free choice, supported by a positive Nurturing Parent, a non-intervening-permissive Controlling Parent, and Free Child acquiescence.
Berne calls permission, a parental licence for autonomous behaviour.
If injunction be called a curse, a stopper depriving freedom, permission is a boon granting freedom to choose and use.
People lacking permissions look at the world (it is their world) from their own perspective. It is the world of a frog in a well. All it knows is the world it exists in. People having permissions look at the world multi-dimensionally. They have no limitations. There are no back pullers and no penal directives. They are free of 'suffering', they are liberated. They have the freedom to make choices.
In therapy permission is an intervention which gives an individual a license to disobey a parental injunction if he is ready, willing, and able, or releases him from parental provocations. Permission is the first of three Ps, the other two being protection and potency.
Allowers
Allowers are like permissions. They are specific to the concerned driver and grant a person the permission to experience OK-ness free of compulsion. In a way they are anti-dotes to Drivers. They grant permission to shift from not-OK life positions to OK-OK life position.
We are structured, clamped to think, feel, do, act, behave in given ways. We thus engage in the hope that we will be able be script free, by using drivers. This is a message at the psychological level. However a word of caution is called here. This, by dismantling drivers we expose ourself to a greater risk of implementing script.
SAFETY FIRST: Drivers are protecting mechanisms preventing the lethal injunctions from becoming operative and as a consequence script. It is therefore necessary to carry out script cure first. This is done by decreasing the lethality of the injunctions and provocations. Once a person has understood what urges, drives and impulses do in the context of script and has gained the ability to deal with them, should he attempt to deal with drivers. In fact after gaining success in this regard the intensity of the compulsiveness to enact drivers becomes substantially weak and manageable. This is so because the level of conscious awareness of the Adult is improved.
Andrienne Lee's drowning person's diagram is given below:
Drowning Person Diagram
Dictionary of Transactional Analysis ISBN 978 1 86156 022 3 p/b
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Closing Escape Hatches
This is an important operation to be implemented by therapists and by persons who wish to do script work. It is an Adult contract to assume responsibility, acknowledging the power to perceive, evaluate, and respond in new ways. It helps by being assured of safety to confront fear of losing control. In effect by closing escape hatches the person gives up all outcomes - those of harming self, those of harming others and those of going crazy - and is able to process matters related to self, others and situations in new ways.
The person also contracts and commits to give up converting hurts, pains, insults, insinuations, put downs, anger, inadequacy, stupidity, guilt, sadness and similar others into psychological trading stamps. Thereby the person becomes self and other person accepting. The person and shifts away from blaming and holding self and others responsible.
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