Saturday 7 April 2018

Transactional Analysis Theory - Stroke Accounting and Stroke Economy

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Stroke Accounting and Stroke Economy
Stroke accounting is the stroking practices healthy people engage in.Stroke economy represents the way script bound or script prone people deal with strokes. It is the antithesis of stroke accounting. Stroke economy occurs because of stroke discounting. Stroke economy is easily noticed.
A stroking profile mapped on the basis of the stroke accounting - stroke economy norms generates a diagram. It is shown in figure 47.

Figure 47
Stroke accounting and stroke economy tells what people do with strokes. The main categories are giving, receiving, asking, rejecting and self stroking. I add two more elements - generating and demanding. There are two types of people. People who engage in stroke accounting and people who do not. The people who engage in stroke accounting are psychologically and emotionally healthy people. They are script free. People who engage in stroke economy are people who are not psychologically and emotionally healthy people. They are script prone or script ridden. In either case, each of them asserts their view to be the right one. It is particularly so in the case with the people who practice stroke economy.
Strokes that are deep, impacting, lingering and difficult to forget leave lasting memories. They boost esteem if they are healthy. They generate Racket if they are unhealthy, they serve the purpose of converting and experiences into psychological trading stamps. People who excel in these qualities in matters of healthy strokes are rare and valued. The best of them are good natured grandmothers.
Stroke Accounting - Stroke accounting people have permission for giving, receiving and asking for strokes. They are also good in self stroking and in rejecting painful, hurting, injuring strokes. They excel in discarding negative strokes. Stroke accounting persons are able to separate person from behaviour. They uphold value, esteem, respect unto the person component and deal with behaviour in isolation. Healthy persons know how to be happy in the moment.
Stroke accounting persons are also good in generating positive strokes and demanding healthy positive strokes when they think or feel they deserve them. The best of this variety is found in children who love to sit on the lap of one of their parents.    
Stroke accounting is also done by being sincere in receiving and giving strokes; by intensifying verbal strokes by accompanying non verbals such as look, staying connected, a hand shake, or a hug; by finding a reason to stroke; by seeing looking, listening, hearing attentively; thus reinforcing stroking.
Stroke accounting people are able to convert healthy strokes into impacting ones. Here is an example: "Hey the food tastes great. I love it. You have put in a lot of effort for this. You are a great cook."
Stroke Economy: Stroke discounting people practice stroke economy. Stroke economy is implemented in ways listed below:
They do not generate positive strokes. They are at ease generating negative strokes.
They do not give strokes they have with them to give. This means that they hold strokes with themselves, many a time unawarely. They justify and profess that their way of doing this is good. They do not know the ways of communicating criticism safely more as an observation instead of as a hurt.
They do not receive the strokes others give them. They shirk them off as being unnecessary even if they are pleasing. This may be noticed by the smile or laugh that accompanies receiving. This constitutes discounting the stroke. However, if the strokes are hurting they receive them instead of rejecting them. They reject strokes of praise and appreciation with a smile or a giggle or waving it away with a shrug or movement of the hand.
They do not ask for the strokes of appreciation, recognition that they need from others. They shy away.  To the contrary they generate conditions (rackets) that get others to give them negative hurting strokes. They do this through manipulation.
They do not reject or discard the strokes that are painful, hurting or injurious. They keep mulling over them, smarting in pain and hurt and keep stoking them.
They do not engage in self stroking. Each one of us has some talent, skill, aptitude, quality that is left unappreciated many a time. We can feel good that we are talented persons. Stroke discounting persons may engage in stroking their unproductive talents, skills, aptitudes, qualities. These in no way help to live a happy and successful life. Cynicism and Scepticism also count in the same category.
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